Yes you are right!
I haven't given up my life, my career, my dreams, my ambitions for a family
I haven't sacrificed my hobbies, my sports, my joy...
I haven't given up cozy afternoon naps to change ten diapers a day.
I haven't exchanged my fun and entertainment for sweeping five time a day.
I haven't given up enjoying my meals in exchange for preparing them sweating through the steaming heat wishing I could sit down and sip a drink
I haven't changed at all
It really doesn't matter if I do the laundry or not
or clean the gunk behind the sinks
or wipe milk off of chairs, tables and floors
and poop off of butts
I have had sleepless nights all my life and not just in the last ten years
I have had anxiety and exhaustion for as long as I can remember
You are absolutely right
I haven't changed much
I do nothing but sit around all day curled up with my favorite book, listening to my favorite song, taking a shower whenever I want to, dressing up, looking and feeling good
Nothing has changed for me,
You have though
You probably would not have the same career
You probably would not have had the leisure time you have now
You probably could sleep at any time you wanted
You probably would have had peaceful driving time alone to yourself
You probably would have had to bother with homework or class projects...
You probably could take care of yourself and groom yourself how you like...
You probably would not have had to give up your body and health and strength to hold and to give birth to new life...
You probably wouldn't have had to put up with constant criticism, disrespect and ridicule from your significant other who chose to adore for the rest of your life despite belly button lint and hairy armpits.
You probably would have had to sacrifice lots of good things...
I do pity you for all the very big changes you have had to go through to for the title of husband and father...
The daily challenges and struggles of family life that make you cry at night
I do wish, you could sleep peacefully like me and snore away through the night...
I wish you didn't have to hide your true feelings and emotions and smile for your kids ever so often just to make them happy.
I wish you had the time to comb your hair every day... to walk in nd out of the home any time you wanted to...
All I can say is that I am really sorry that you have had to make so many sacrifices along the way while I get to enjoy the same life I always had, take a walk whenever I want to, reach my dreams and have a personality of my own! I really wish we could exchange our lives from the depth of my heart... in another world may be... IA... lets wait and see...
2 years ago